We’re exploring option from conception to childhood to help women take control of their fertility, birth experience, postpartum healing, and motherhood journey! This is a safe space for all parents to hear what the experts have to say and to hear from influencer parents and their take on parenthood! Join us for all things birth and parenthood for an empowering and educational walk with a birth and newborn expert and the found of Tranquility by HeHe Maternity Concierge, HeHe Stewart.
Episodes
12 hours ago
12 hours ago
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In this episode, HeHe sits down with Dr. Kristin Lasseter to unpack perinatal mental health with a focus on postpartum anxiety (PPA) versus postpartum depression (PPD), how they differ, and when “baby blues” may signal something more. While mood shifts are common in the early postpartum days, symptoms that persist beyond a couple of weeks, disrupt sleep, bring constant anxiety or sadness, intrusive thoughts, or thoughts of death deserve real support.
They talk candidly about the guilt, shame, and fear of judgment that keep many women silent, and why telling one safe person can be a powerful first step. The conversation explores common risk factors like fertility struggles, pregnancy or birth complications, and PMDD, along with the significant hormonal shift that happens after the placenta is delivered and why the brain can feel especially vulnerable during that window.
HeHe and Dr. Lasseter also navigate the often-stigmatized topic of psychiatric medication during pregnancy and postpartum. They discuss why abruptly stopping medication is usually unsafe, how to thoughtfully weigh medication risks against the risks of untreated mental illness, what research tells us about breastfeeding compatibility, and what to expect when starting or adjusting treatment. They touch on newer, faster-acting postpartum depression options, therapy modalities like CBT and EMDR, and additional treatments such as TMS and ECT.
The episode closes with an honest conversation about bounce-back culture, social media pressure, and choosing support systems that protect a mother’s mental health. Throughout, the message is clear: evidence-based care matters, suffering in silence isn’t a badge of honor, and there is no shame in using medication when it’s needed.
0:00 - Introduction: Mental Health Medications in Pregnancy & Postpartum
4:36 - Postpartum Anxiety vs Postpartum Depression: Key Differences
6:01 - Normal Baby Blues vs Red Flags: When to Seek Help
9:51 - Intrusive Thoughts & Breaking the Stigma
17:26 - Medication Safety in Pregnancy: What You Need to Know
24:43 - Should You Stop Your Meds When Pregnant?
30:03 - Hormones & Mental Health: The Postpartum Crash
43:56 - Breastfeeding While on Psychiatric Medications
51:26 - How Long Should You Stay on Medication?
60:50 - Fighting the "Bounce Back" Culture & Social Media's Impact
Guest Bio:
Kristin Yeung Lasseter, MD is a Board-Certified Psychiatrist in Texas who specializes in Reproductive Psychiatry and Women’s Mental Health.
She graduated cum laude from Southwestern University with a Bachelors of Science in Biology prior to attending medical school at the Long School of Medicine at the University of Texas Health Science Center in San Antonio. Dr. Lasseter excelled in medical school and was awarded membership into the prestigious Alpha Omega Alpha Medical Honor Society.
After receiving her Medical Degree, she completed Psychiatry residency at Dell Medical School at The University of Texas at Austin where she served as Chief Resident. She additionally spent time training in Reproductive Psychiatry at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston.
Dr. Lasseter founded Reproductive Psychiatry Clinic of Austin in 2018, which now hosts multiple psychiatrists and psychotherapists specialized in treating mental health disorders related to the reproductive lifespan. She dedicates much of her time educating the public and other providers about reproductive mental illness through speaking engagements, writing and social media.
Connect with Dr. Lasseter:
www.rpcaustin.com www.kristinlassetermd.com https://www.instagram.com/the.reproductive.psychiatrist
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/
Connect with Dr. Lasseter on IG: https://www.instagram.com/the.reproductive.psychiatrist
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what’s really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection
Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy
And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/
Want prep delivered straight to your phone?
Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Maternal Mental Health Suicide Hotline: 1-833-TLC-MAMA
Postpartum Support International: https://postpartum.net/
3 days ago
3 days ago
Ep. 429: The Science Behind Intrusive Thoughts with Dr. Katayune Kaeni aka Dr. Kat
In this episode of The Birth Lounge, HeHe sits down with perinatal psychologist Dr. Kat to have the conversation we don’t have enough: the real, nuanced truth about mental health in pregnancy and postpartum.
They break down the full spectrum of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, including postpartum depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, panic attacks, bipolar disorder, and postpartum psychosis. They cover what’s common, what’s urgent, and what deserves immediate support.
A major focus of this conversation is intrusive thoughts.
Dr. Kat explains that intrusive thoughts are incredibly common, especially postpartum. They are typically unwanted, distressing, and they don’t reflect your true desires. But when thoughts become frequent, graphic, intense, or begin to interfere with daily functioning (like avoiding holding your baby out of fear), that’s when it’s time to reach out for professional support.
HeHe shares personal examples and normalizes how sleep deprivation, hormonal shifts, stress, and identity changes can amplify anxiety and intrusive thoughts, while emphasizing that struggling does not mean you are broken.
They discuss:
- How to tell the difference between common intrusive thoughts and something more serious
- Why suicide is the second leading cause of death in the postpartum period
- When therapy and/or medication are appropriate and valid tools
- How to talk to your partner and loved ones about not feeling like yourself
- Why reassurance alone may not be enough for severe anxiety or OCD
- How to use resources like Postpartum Support International
- The importance of proactive conversations during pregnancy
This episode is compassionate, evidence-based, and deeply validating.
If you have ever thought, “Why is my brain doing this?” or felt afraid to say your thoughts out loud, this conversation will help you understand what’s happening, and remind you that support is not weakness. It is care.
You deserve to feel safe in your own mind.
Guest Bio:
Katayune Kaeni, Psy.D. PMH-C, aka, Dr. Kat is a perinatal mental health certified psychologist, author of The Pregnancy Workbook: Manage Anxiety and Worry with CBT and Mindfulness Techniques, and host of the Mom & Mind Podcast, the longest-running perinatal mental health podcast since 2016, covering perinatal mental health personal stories and expert interviews. She volunteers her time, serving on the board of Postpartum Support International (PSI) as a board member and as the immediate past chair. Dr. Kat began specializing in perinatal mental health after her own experience with postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD over 14 years ago. Dr. Kat continues to offer psychotherapy virtually to clients across California.
www.momandmind.com, IG and Tiktok @momandmind, FB @momandmindpodcast
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/
Connect with Dr. Kat on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momandmind/
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what’s really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection
Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy
And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/
Want prep delivered straight to your phone?
Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page
LINKS MENTIONED:
PSI descriptions of symptoms: https://paulspector.com/assessments/pauls-no-cost-assessments/physical-symptoms-inventory/
Friday Feb 27, 2026
Friday Feb 27, 2026
What are the most common reasons for a home birth transfer?
Is every transfer an emergency?
If you’ve found yourself wondering about this, you’re exactly where you need to be.
In this episode of The Birth Lounge, HeHe sits down with birth doula, childbirth educator, business owner, former teacher, and MSW student Jen Walts to talk about something that doesn’t get discussed enough: creating a thoughtful transfer plan to support a smooth, patient-centered, trauma-informed transition from a home or birth center setting to the hospital if the need arises. Because here’s the truth: planning for transfer isn’t planning for failure — it’s planning for safety, flexibility, and peace of mind.
HeHe and Jen walk through why transfer planning matters and encourage parents to ask their midwife about transfer timing and transfer rates (and why a rate of zero can actually be a red flag). They gently reframe transfer as a responsible, informed pivot when circumstances call for additional support.
This conversation covers common reasons for transfer, like maternal health, baby’s health, and access to additional tools such as pain management (including epidurals), assisted vaginal delivery options, and postpartum repair.
They also explore how fear of the hospital can complicate transfer, the importance of understanding the “why” behind birth location choice, how a transfer can impact the nervous system, and the role of surrender and flexibility when a birth plan changes. Jen recommends developing a hospital backup birth preference sheet, including a shorter “top 10” list of non-negotiables to share with the receiving team, with examples such as immediate skin-to-skin, backup skin-to-skin plans if separation occurs, delayed cord clamping, newborn feeding preferences, and cesarean-specific requests.
Guest Bio:
Jen has been a birth doula, childbirth educator and business owner for five years. She taught high school for ten years and is now pursuing her second Masters degree. She hopes to become a licensed social worker and therapist to children and families in Massachusetts.
Connect with Jen here: Thebirthpath.org
https://www.pioneervalleydoulas.com/
Get $100 OFF Hypnobirthing with Jen Walts (virtual or in person) when you mention that heard about it here!
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/
Connect with Jen on IG: https://www.instagram.com/_thebirthpath_/
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what’s really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection
Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy
And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/
Want prep delivered straight to your phone?
Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page
Wednesday Feb 25, 2026
Wednesday Feb 25, 2026
This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, makers of luxuriously soft bamboo sheets, blankets, and sleep essentials. Because your rest matters, mamas. Cozy Earth makes it easier to get the cozy, breathable sleep your body (and your little one) deserve. Use code HEHE at https://cozyearth.com/ for 20% off your order and treat yourself to the sleep you’ve been dreaming of.
In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe is joined by Tracy aka Modern Day Midwife (a hospital-based midwife in Arizona with a NICU background) for a candid, behind-the-scenes conversation about the realities of modern healthcare.
Together, they unpack how the U.S. healthcare system is failing both patients and providers, from provider burnout and lack of mental health support to the pressures of hospital politics, insurance reimbursement, and productivity quotas.
They explore the difference between “Medicine 1.0” (acute care) and “Medicine 2.0” (preventative care, functional medicine, wellness), and how insurance-driven, fee-for-service models often prioritize sick care over true health. The result? Confusing medical bills, rushed care, poor patient experiences, and providers who are stretched thin despite doing deeply meaningful work.
HeHe and Tracy dive into the unique challenges facing women’s health, maternity care, and birth: over-medicalization, the cascade of interventions, the limits of 10-minute OB-GYN appointments, maternity care deserts, and the need for individualized care, informed consent, and continuity of care. From ACOG guidelines to ever changing evidence and research, they explore possible solutions including a midwifery-led model of care, better transfer systems for home birth and birth center patients, coverage for doulas and health coaching, and shifting consumer demand away from traditional insurance and towards alternatives like health shares.
Tracy shares her exciting vision for an integrated wellness hub that could include midwifery, obstetrics, pelvic floor PT, lactation, chiropractic care, and community-based health supports, and ends by sharing how to connect with her at Premier OB GYN in Phoenix and via Modern Day Midwife online and on Instagram.
00:00 Why Healthcare Breaks Providers
02:24 Burnout and Speaking Up
04:59 Fear and Privilege in Advocacy
07:18 Who Supports Clinicians
12:32 Medicine 1.0 vs Prevention
17:25 Billing Confusion and Fee for Service
19:06 Burn It Down or Reform It
23:55 Disrupting Insurance and Incentives
26:49 Birth Care Needs a New Model
29:36 Preeclampsia Prevention Debate
30:47 Rethinking Maternity Care Roles
32:04 Money in Wellness Care
34:55 Building a One Stop Birth Hub
37:43 Continuity Across Birth Settings
41:45 Evidence Based Medicine Reality Check
47:56 ACOG Guidelines vs Individual Choice
53:23 Demanding Individualized Care
55:11 Rebuilding Healthcare and Provider Support
56:59 Where to Find Tracy
58:15 Closing Thanks and Resources
Guest Bio:
Meet Tracy Burns, Board Certified Nurse Midwife. Tracy graduated from the University of Cincinnati in 2003 with her bachelor's degree in nursing. After graduation, Tracy spent a year in labor and delivery as a bedside RN and then took a job in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital. Tracy spent the first 13 years of her career taking care of premature infants and mothers before pursuing her advanced practice career in Women’s Health.
Tracy graduated from the University of Cincinnati in 2017 with her Master’s degree in Midwifery. With a big heart for women, Tracy is an advocate for midwifery care for women and the continuity of care model. Tracy has been an active team player in bringing midwifery services to Banner Estrella and Abrazo West. Tracy is passionate about health and wellness. She believes in using a functional/integrative approach to health promotion/disease prevention through an early introduction to nutrition, exercise, mindfulness, sleep, and community. Tracy is committed to caring for women by collaborating with other like-minded providers who are as committed to changing the way we care for women in America.
Tracy is married and has two teenage daughters. She enjoys Crossfit, hiking, and spending time with family and friends. She is a co-owner of Crossfit Fury, CrossFit Trainer, and BirthFit professional. Tracy and her husband are actively involved in changing maternal and neonatal outcomes globally through Helping Babies and Mothers Survive Campaign.
Connect with Tracy here: Www.moderndaymidwife.com
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/
Connect with Tracy on IG: https://www.instagram.com/moderndaymidwife/
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what’s really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection
Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy
And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/
Want prep delivered straight to your phone?
Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page
Friday Feb 20, 2026
Friday Feb 20, 2026
In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe welcomes Kara, a Mother-Baby Nurse and mom of three, to walk through what actually happens after you leave labor and delivery and transition to postpartum care. From fundal checks and C-section vitals to newborn screenings, pain management, lactation support, and discharge, this episode gives you clarity without overwhelm.
This episode is detailed, practical, and empowering. Postpartum in the hospital doesn’t have to feel chaotic when you understand what’s routine, what’s optional, and where your voice matters most.
00:00 Speak Up in the Hospital: You Can Say No (Advocacy Mindset)
01:05 Listener Story: Holding Firm Against 39-Week Induction Pressure
03:56 How to Use the Birth Lounge App to Back Up Your Choices
06:10 Maternity Leave Update + Why This Episode Is a Re-Air
07:50 Postpartum in the Hospital: What We’ll Cover (Tests, Checks, Taboo Topics)
09:08 Meet Kara the Baby Nurse: Mother-Baby RN + Mom of Three
10:40 The Postpartum Unit Reality Check: It’s More Than ‘Rest and Discharge’
12:10 Transition from L&D to Postpartum: Bedside Report + LDRP vs Separate Units
15:25 First 4 Hours Post-Birth: Fundal Checks, Vitals, Safety Paperwork, Goals
18:27 Getting Up After Birth: Movement, Gas Pain, and C-Section Recovery
20:47 If You Decline Fundal Checks: Bleeding & Clot Warning Signs to Watch
23:19 Postpartum Pain Management: Meds, Non-Pharm Options, and Speaking Up
27:35 Who’s Coming in Your Room: Rounds, Labs, Screens, and the DND Sign
35:09 Baby’s Pediatrician Exam: Nursery vs In-Room, No-Separation Rights
39:40 Newborn Head-to-Toe Exam & Routine Postpartum Checks
40:26 Newborn Screening Labs: PKU Heel Prick, Bilirubin, Car Seat & Hearing
42:46 Sponsor Break: Lalo Registry Must-Haves (Travel High Chair + Play Kit)
45:55 Bilirubin & Jaundice: What the Numbers Mean + Phototherapy Options
48:05 Newborn Hearing Screen: How It Works & What a “Fail” Usually Means
50:28 Newborn Meds/Vaccines in Postpartum: Vit K, Erythromycin, Hep B Timing
51:45 Breastfeeding Support in the Hospital: Nurse Training, Latch Help & Pumps
55:43 Baby Weight Loss & When to Supplement (Pumping, Donor Milk, Formula)
58:24 Circumcision 101: Procedure, Pain Control, Aftercare & Red Flags
01:03:40 Advocating for Yourself: Communication, Boundaries & Requesting a New Nurse
01:07:08 The Postpartum Poop: Why Staff Ask, What Helps, When to Call Your Doctor
01:11:26 Wrap-Up: Kara’s Book & Sleep Course + Where to Follow
Guest Bio:
Kara is a mother-baby, hospital based nurse with 3 kids of her own. Her passion is educating and empowering people through her social media pages. She shares nurse tips and mom tricks, author of the book Why Didn’t I Learn all this Parent Stuff Sooner?, and creator of a tried and true baby sleep course. You can find her @karathrbabynurse on YouTube, TikTok, Facebook, and Instagram!
Connect with Kara here: https://karathebabynurse.com/link-in-bio/
Check out Kara's sleep course here: https://kara-s-site-b397.thinkific.com/courses/karathebabynurse
Snag her book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BBSH4Q9Z/ref=sr_1_6?crid=2GWZSFDOW1WFP&keywords=kara+thompson&qid=1661365188&sprefix=kara+thompson%2Caps%2C83&sr=8-6
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/
Connect with Kara on IG: https://www.instagram.com/karathebabynurse/
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what’s really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection
Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy
And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/
Want prep delivered straight to your phone?
Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page
LINKS MENTIONED:
Lalo
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Wednesday Feb 18, 2026
Wednesday Feb 18, 2026
This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, makers of luxuriously soft bamboo sheets, blankets, and sleep essentials. Because your rest matters, mamas. Cozy Earth makes it easier to get the cozy, breathable sleep your body (and your little one) deserve. Use code HEHE at https://cozyearth.com/ for 20% off your order and treat yourself to the sleep you’ve been dreaming of.
In this episode of the The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe shares her full home birth story and early postpartum reflections after welcoming her baby boy earthside.
She breaks down her intentional choice to build a home birth team to protect autonomy and avoid unnecessary interventions, walks through a long, physiologic labor, and shares how informed consent, continuous support, and advocacy shaped a trauma-free birth experience. From 'late' labor, slow progress, and powerful pushing to staying grounded through conversations about hospital transfer, this episode is a real look at what empowered, supported birth can actually look like.
HeHe also shares early postpartum life, including her thoughts on lying-in, breastfeeding, babywearing, and motherhood updates on Instagram @TranquilityByHeHe.
00:00 Why This Birth Couldn’t Happen in a Typical U.S. Hospital
01:09 “I Have a Baby!” Postpartum Awe + Becoming a Mom
04:18 Why I Share Online: Birth Rights, Options & Normalizing Motherhood
07:16 Privacy Boundaries: Protecting Baby’s Details in the AI Era
09:31 12 Days Past Due: Date Night Sushi & The First Contractions
12:44 Water Breaks at 6:30 AM: Confirming, Mucus Plug & Waking Dad
15:53 All-Day Early Labor: Staying Home, No Pressure, Infection Precautions
19:51 Night 2 Ramps Up: Birth Space Setup, Dinner, Slow Dance & Shower
27:03 3 AM Toilet Time: Transition Signs, Filling the Tub & Calling the Team
33:59 Sponsor Break: Cozy Earth Postpartum Comfort Essentials
36:04 In the Birth Pool: Team Arrives, Complete Dilation & Passive Pushing Begins
38:27 Ferguson vs. Fetal Ejection Reflex: When FER Never Shows Up
40:10 Benadryl Rest Strategy: Trying to Reset a Stalled Pushing Pattern
41:47 Calling in the Chiropractor: Adjustments for Positioning & Persistent Rectal Pain
42:52 All the Positions, No Progress: Movement Marathon to Bring Contractions Closer
43:21 Midwives Say ‘You Have to Push’: Letting Go of Waiting for FER
45:51 Shower + Birth Ball & ‘Hulk Out’ Mode: Feeling Hair and Finding Fuel
48:43 Perfect Vitals, Growing Concern: The Transfer Conversation Looms
50:37 Clearing the Bathroom: Talking to Baby, Asking for a Sign
54:06 Husband Advocates to Stay Home: Autonomy, Risk Talk, and Trust
57:16 Crowning for 90 Minutes: The Final Push to Birth
59:29 After Birth Care: APGARs, Pitocin Decision, and Stitches
01:01:07 The Afterglow: Doulas, Dad’s Support, and First Night at Home
01:04:01 What Made It Possible: Prep, Team Support, and Mindset Lessons
01:08:04 Big Takeaways: Autonomy, No Birth Trauma, and Final Thanks
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience — all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/
Want prep delivered straight to your phone?
Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page
And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin
LINKS MENTIONED:
Check out the First Trimester Update HeHe mentioned here: https://youtu.be/DgcQGnHJ-Aw?si=6sgC5o4iOtuT94WE
Save 10$ on Tubina Wild with code HEHE: https://www.tubinawild.com/shop
Check out the birth sling here: https://thebirthsling.com/
Friday Feb 13, 2026
Friday Feb 13, 2026
In this episode of The Birth Lounge, HeHe dives into the big, messy, beautiful reality of life after baby. She introduces Dad Daze, a course created to give dads-to-be the tools, knowledge, and confidence to show up fully—from labor and delivery to postpartum support—so they can be active partners in parenthood.
HeHe is joined by Kalista Anderson, founder of the New Mom Boss podcast, RN, lactation counselor, and new mom coach. Together, they unpack how relationships shift after a baby, why it’s so important to notice and prepare for those changes, and how love languages impact connection in the postpartum period. They share practical strategies for communicating, leaning on your support system, and reigniting intimacy, so partners feel supported, connected, and empowered in this wild transitional time.
This conversation is full of real talk, actionable tips, and gentle guidance for navigating your relationship during the rollercoaster of postpartum life.
00:00 Introduction to New Parenthood Challenges
00:59 Welcome to The Birth Lounge Podcast
01:41 Introducing Dad Days Course
02:24 Course Details and Benefits
04:48 Re-airing Popular Episodes During Maternity Leave
06:46 Interview with Kallista Anderson
08:44 Postpartum Relationship Changes
14:43 Importance of Communication and Affection
17:35 Date Nights and Love Languages
22:29 Understanding Fertility Tracking
22:48 Personal Fertility Tracking Methods
24:02 Navigating Postpartum Touch and Intimacy
28:18 Reengaging in Sex After Baby
29:32 Supporting Each Other Postpartum
33:19 Building Your Postpartum Village
35:15 Adapting Postpartum Plans
38:13 Final Thoughts and Resources
Guest Bio:
Kallista is married and is a mom of 3. She is a registered nurse and finished the lactation counselor training course through The Center for Breastfeeding. Kallista helps new moms in their journey into motherhood. From pregnancy to welcoming baby in arms and beyond, she offers education, support, as well as her own experience. In this episode we are diving into your relationship with your partner postpartum!
See the originally published episode here: Ep. 173: Your Relationship with Your Partner Post Baby with Kallista Andersen
SOCIAL MEDIA:
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Connect with Kalista on Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kallista-andersen-7762651b2/ to see what she’s up to now
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/
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And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
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Wednesday Feb 11, 2026
Wednesday Feb 11, 2026
In this episode of The Birth Lounge, HeHe sits down with couples therapist and relationship coach Jonathan Van Viegen to unpack something that shows up in almost every partnership at some point: emotional dysregulation.
Together, they break down what dysregulation actually means, not as a label or a flaw, but as what happens when emotions come out sideways instead of being expressed in healthy, connecting ways. Jonathan shares insights from his upcoming book, including what he’s learned from working with couples in high-stress, high-conflict seasons, while also reminding listeners that regulation, repair, and connection deserve just as much attention as the hard moments.
The conversation explores how expectations, self-awareness, and reflection shape the way we show up for our partners, especially during seasons like financial stress, career pressure, pregnancy, and parenting. They talk openly about communication breakdowns, rebuilding physical intimacy, and why support and curiosity matter more than “getting it right.”
You’ll also hear Jonathan’s practical, no-fluff tools for improving communication, reconnecting emotionally and physically, and navigating hard conversations without spiraling into blame or shutdown. Yes, they even go there on the topic of scheduled sex and why it can actually support intimacy instead of killing it.
This episode is a reminder that strong relationships aren’t built by avoiding conflict, they’re built by learning how to come back to each other with honesty, regulation, and care.
Guest Bio:
Jonathan Van Viegen is a couples therapist, relationship coach, and author of an upcoming book to be found in stores in 2026. With over 10,000 hours helping couples rebuild trust, intimacy, and emotional connection, he’s known for his no-fluff, solution-focused approach that actually gets results. His work has transformed thousands of relationships, and he’s on a mission to save a million marriages.
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Connect with HeHe on Instagram
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way
Want prep delivered straight to your phone?
Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere.
And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor.
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Friday Feb 06, 2026
Friday Feb 06, 2026
In this episode, HeHe shares a quick life update before re-airing one of our most-loved conversations while she’s on maternity leave and it’s one that still matters a lot.
This episode pulls back the curtain on hospital-sponsored childbirth education and why so many expectant parents leave those classes feeling more confused, constrained, or quietly uneasy instead of truly prepared. We talk about how bias shows up, why informed consent is often glossed over, and what gets left out when education is tied to the same system providing your care.
This is an honest, empowering conversation about why independent, evidence-based, out-of-hospital childbirth education can change how you experience pregnancy, birth, and advocacy. It’s about understanding your options, protecting your autonomy, and reducing the risk of trauma by being informed before decisions feel urgent.
If you’ve ever wondered why traditional birth classes didn’t quite sit right, or you want education that trusts your intelligence and centers your voice, this episode is for you.
New episodes drop every Wednesday and Friday. Follow along and join The Birth Lounge community for grounded, non-judgmental birth education and support that actually prepares you for the real thing. 💛
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Connect with HeHe on Instagram
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience — all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/
Want prep delivered straight to your phone?
Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page
And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin
Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what’s really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection
Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy
The Secret Sauce to Pushing course gives you step-by-step guidance on how to push effectively — whether you have an epidural or not — so you can reduce tearing, labor faster, and feel in control from start to finish. HeHe teaches which muscles to engage, how to position your body, and the techniques that actually work, giving you the confidence and tools to achieve your best birth possible.
Learn more: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/SSP
Wednesday Feb 04, 2026
Wednesday Feb 04, 2026
This episode is brought to you by Cozy Earth, makers of luxuriously soft bamboo sheets, blankets, and sleep essentials. Because your rest matters, mamas. Cozy Earth makes it easier to get the cozy, breathable sleep your body (and your little one) deserve. Use code HEHE at https://cozyearth.com/ for 20% off your order and treat yourself to the sleep you’ve been dreaming of.
In this episode of The Birth Lounge podcast, HeHe shares her personal journey through the final weeks of her pregnancy. As she eagerly anticipates the arrival of her baby, she details her physical and emotional experiences, including her decisions on newborn resuscitation training, gestational diabetes testing, and preparation for labor. HeHe discusses the benefits of pelvic floor physical therapy, counting kicks for fetal monitoring, and the importance of having a supportive birth team. Follow along as she provides insights into staying active, managing pregnancy symptoms, and preparing for the big day.
00:00 Introduction and Podcast Welcome
01:05 Pregnancy Reflections and Preparations
05:27 Third Trimester Experiences
09:35 Gestational Diabetes Testing
11:38 Baby Gear and Nursery Planning
28:22 Unexpected Pregnancy Symptoms
33:45 Final Preparations and Reflections
41:11 Conclusion and Farewell
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Connect with HeHe on Instagram
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience — all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/
Want prep delivered straight to your phone?
Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app-download-page
And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin
Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what’s really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection
Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy
The Secret Sauce to Pushing course gives you step-by-step guidance on how to push effectively — whether you have an epidural or not — so you can reduce tearing, labor faster, and feel in control from start to finish. HeHe teaches which muscles to engage, how to position your body, and the techniques that actually work, giving you the confidence and tools to achieve your best birth possible.
Learn more: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/SSP
LINKS MENTIONED:
Check out our episode on pushing her: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZrzPyJLu50
Check out our episode on Gestational Diabetes here: https://youtu.be/rgRyNfOOgKU?si=DjdOM21A_yqhw0lr
Listen to our episode about counting kicks here: https://youtu.be/0nBT2FxZJfA?si=prnyGCdjwzXUZXfc
Listen to our episode about choosing a stroller with Hip Baby Gear: https://youtu.be/ljVnpZwhKlk?si=eTiU16-XHlzVnvMy
Check out Dr. Berlin’s Growing with HeHe: https://www.informedpregnancy.tv/growing-with-hehe
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