The Birth Lounge Podcast

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Will your doula be mad if you get an epidural? Will she judge you if you're loud, change your birth plan, or decide that home birth isn't for you? You guys, let's get one thing straight: your doula is not there to grade your birth. After nearly 11 years of attending births, HeHe has a list of five things she genuinely could not care less about when it comes to how you give birth.

 

HeHe gets into the questions parents are sometimes afraid to ask when interviewing a doula, and why the answers should make you feel supported, not judged. From getting an epidural to making noise, changing your mind, and everything in between, she shares the five things that don't matter nearly as much as people think they do. Plus, there's one thing she cares about more than ALL of them.

 

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IN THIS EPISODE

• The five things HeHe genuinely doesn't care about as your doula
• Whether your doula will still support you if you get an epidural
• Why being loud, changing your mind, or choosing a different birth setting shouldn't earn you judgment
• What to ask when interviewing a doula and the answers you deserve
• The one thing HeHe cares about more than how you give birth
• Why practicing your advocacy before labor matters

 

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Level 10 Contractions Will Take You Out to Space

00:55 The Birth Lounge $300 Off Sale

02:10 5 Things I Don't Care About as Your Doula

03:55 Does Your Doula Care What Kind of Birth You Have

06:40 Where to Give Birth: Home, Birth Center, or Hospital

10:15 Epidural vs Unmedicated Birth and Pain Relief

13:45 Cozy Earth Sponsor: https://www.cozyearth.com

15:30 Doulas and Providers: Autonomy and Shared Decision-Making

20:45 Best Pushing Position (HeHe's Birth Story)

23:50 What a Doula Actually Cares About

27:15 Final Thoughts and Outro

 

CONNECT

HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/

The Birth Lounge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.birth.lounge/

 

KEEP LEARNING WITH HEHE

Scripts for Advocacy, the exact words for the conversations that can make or break your birth, from declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy

Want prep delivered straight to your phone? Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app

 

LINKS MENTIONED

The Birth Lounge $300 Off Sale: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/join

Cozy Earth: https://www.cozyearth.com (code HEHE)

Scripts for Advocacy: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy

The Birth Lounge App: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app