The Birth Lounge Podcast

Your friend just had a baby and you have no idea what to actually do. Same.

HeHe is recording this one late at night in the thick of the 8 to 10 month growth spurt with her own son Saggy, and it got her thinking about something she has never actually sat down and mapped out for you guys: what does showing up for a postpartum friend actually look like, in practice, not just in theory.

 

This episode gives you the real playbook, but the next question is always what do I actually do when I walk in the door, and that's exactly what HeHe's new Baby Sleep Solutions Guide is built for too, giving you a concrete plan instead of vague advice: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/babysleep

 

HeHe breaks down the difference between her pre baby support style (packing a suitcase and living with her postpartum friends, no joke) and what she does now that she has her own kid at home, plus the exact mental checklist she runs before showing up: do they want company or space, do they want you holding the baby or doing their dishes, and how to offer help without making it weird.

 

In this episode:

• What HeHe actually used to do when a bestie had a baby (here's a hint, it involved a suitcase)
• The one thing you should never do when you walk into a postpartum friend's house, even if you mean well
• How to run a meal train that doesn't backfire and leave a family drowning in lasagna
• Why checking in from far away matters just as much as showing up in person, and the exact apps and habits that make it easy
• When sharing your own experience helps a new mom, and when it crosses into advice she didn't ask for
• The one thing in every hospital bag that saved HeHe's nipples twice, once from a tongue tie and once from teething

 

If you have ever stood outside a friend's door with a casserole wondering if you're about to overstep, this episode is your permission slip and your plan. Grab the Baby Sleep Solutions Guide here: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/babysleep

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Show Up As The Village

00:52 A Very Late Night Life Update

01:43 The New Baby Sleep Guide Is Here

05:44 Where This Episode Idea Came From

07:02 What HeHe Used To Do, Pre Baby

08:56 How To Help Without Holding The Baby

11:37 Meals And Meal Trains Done Right

14:58 The Silverette Fix For Nipple Pain

17:54 Checking In When You Can't Show Up In Person

26:06 Knowing Your Role And Final Thoughts

 

CONNECT

HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/

The Birth Lounge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.birth.lounge/

 

SILVERETTE

This episode contains an affiliate link. If you purchase through it, HeHe may earn a commission at no extra cost to you. If you're planning to breastfeed, Silverette cups are a registry must. HeHe used hers for cracked, bleeding nipples from her son's tongue tie, and again months later for teething bites, and both times they were a lifesaver. They're real silver and a one time investment that lasts through every baby you have. Grab them at https://www.silveretteusa.com and use code HEHE for 10% off.

 

KEEP LEARNING WITH HEHE

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LINKS MENTIONED

Baby Sleep Solutions Guide: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/babysleep

Silverette cups (use code HEHE): https://www.silveretteusa.com